Manliness is next to Godliness

There currently are ‘movements’ (think hard on that one) that seek to ‘dewimpify’ the Christian guy. But in their efforts to uplift the macho, burly, blue-collar Jesus, they slap the normal, artistic, gentle, maybe homeosexual guy around like. Curiously, those who preach the MMA or Macho Christ, are usually themselves macho types. Is that exeJesus or isoJesus? I think it is iamJesus.

I have nothing against men being men, and women being women. I’m for it, personally. But defintions of ‘biblical’ masculinity that involves the following don’t jive with me:

1) putting down others
2) promoting violence
3) trash talking (by this I mean talk that doesn’t help)
4) thinking your way is the way (mywayhighway)
5) dominating others
6) objectifying women
7) overstepping one’s bounds
8) never admitting one’s mistakes
9) rudeness
10) being inconsiderate
11) being unappreciative
12) not giving credit where credit is due
13) taking other’s things – seizing
14) empty promises
15) unfaithfulness
16) not being under authority (loose canons)

That’s not the entire list, but it’s a start.

I So Don’t Want to Be ‘Marrying’ Anymore

Marriage, it’s an institution

But what does that mean?

Endless flowers, beautiful dress, music, big cake

Many, many guests

Who’s that?

Rent out the best place, boola bucks

To some, it is a joy, a beautiful grand reflection of grandiosity

But, for many, it is a burden, a fleeting memory resulting in debt

The main thing is the love, the commitment

Knowing that this person is with you for the rest of your love

Love, love growing love.  Deeper, deeper understanding

One with each other and with the One, oceans flowing, mind-expanding

Hand in hand, side by side we move together into eternity, I’ll love you forever, only you

Love your Women

Love women.  We should all love one another.  But today, I’d like to talk specifically about women.  Women are different from men.  Not better, not worse, just not the same.  That doesn’t mean men have to be like women, or women have to be like men.  But, men and women should work together in harmony, as a team.

We should appreciate each other’s differences.  After, we complement one another.  We should appreciate each other’s talents and contributions.  GOD put men and women together because they can help each other.  Since I’ve been married, my wife has helped me make smarter decisions.  Major decisions we always make together with prayer and consideration.  GOD’s opinion counts the most.  We often wait for an indication, usually through circumstances, of how He wants us to go.  Back to women, guys usually make decisions very quickly, which can be detrimental.  Women, at least my wife makes me slow down and think about it, because they are usually by nature more cautious.  Funny to say, usually I’m right.  But, not all the time.  And taking time to do things right is usually the best policy, because things get shaken out, and turn aright over time, by GOD’s grace.

Men, loving your women means valuing them.  And making them feel loved and secure.  If that involves working another job, then so be it.  Your priorities, on this earth, after GOD, is to take care of your own, your family.  That is true religion.  Speak words of love.  Words that will lift her spirit, make her feel cherished, and never say things to tear her down.  As husband, you have responsibility to look after her – even rebuking her, when she is in the wrong, when that time comes.  Care for her as you would care for your own body.  Is her hair nice?  Is she in shape?  Wearing nice clothes?  Does she look like a queen? Is she eating, drinking, and sleeping well?

Women, you have to love your men, too.  Love involves a lot of things.  But I’d like to say respecting his leadership is part of loving him.  GOD create man before woman.  That order means something.  Leadership in GOD’s eyes is actually not lording over but a loving, servant type leadership.  A gentle, patient leading…not pushing or forcing.